Thursday, September 18, 2008

What Makes men fall In Love

From Yahoo, What Makes Men Fall in Love

Lets take a look at what the experts say.

The Desire: To Protect

Believe it or not, the so-called stoic sex is hardwired to nurture. Sheltering you from harm makes him feel studly, which makes him feel good.
Performing concrete tasks is a way of bonding that enhances his sense of success.

OK now you see that I covered that right here: A note on the Independent Woman. (Part 1) here: A note on the Independent Woman. (Part 2) and here: A note on the Independent Woman. (Part 3 The Conclusion)

The Desire: Freedom

Even emotionally healthy single men want assurance that their identities will stay put after they've become half a happy couple. "By making it clear that you don't expect your guy to change, he'll feel like you truly understand him but don't threaten his sense of self," says Dan Neuharth, PhD, author of "Secrets You Keep from Yourself." "That leaves him feeling on sturdy enough ground to commit." The following dating moves let him know you're no ball and chain.
Blow him off. Single men hate the idea of being tied down socially, so turn down occasional plans. He'll not only feel easier -- and open up more -- around you, but he'll also start to wonder what you're doing and pursue you more.

Agreed, the quickest way a woman can kill a potential boyfriend/husband is by trying to rush things, and if you mention marriage before he does you already killed the relationship. No one likes to feel like they are on the clock.

I like the hunt, even when I say I am not, I do, overly needy women are a turn off.

Respect his privacy. A physical space that's totally his is a huge symbol of independence to a man. Signal that you respect that by, say, staying out of desk drawers and not peeking at his caller ID when his phone rings.

Damn right, a snooping women in the beginning of a relationship is a sure sign that your going to have a head ache with trust issues.

I know these two idiot couples who live to check each other phones, question every text and call and than have the nerve to complain about the other one doing it to them.

The one bastard even checked one our mutual homeboys phone to see if his girl was texting him, and I believe the swine was trying to get to my phone to do the same.

Lost all respect for those two.

The Desire: To Shine

Maybe he's cocky, but he's still insecure. Trust us, guys need to know that they're respected and appreciated. "When being around you increases a guy's esteem, both internally and in the eyes of others, he'll naturally want to be attached to you," says Dr. Dobransky. Here, things that show your high value and nudge him toward love.

Careful with this one, too much ego stroking will have him lose respect for you, and not enough and he is out the door.

The Desire: Comfort

"Falling in love is a process of developing attachment, which happens when oxytocin floods the brain," says Alan Hirsch, MD, neurological director of the Smell and Taste Treatment and Research Foundation. You can unleash those love hormones by making him feel like you two just "fit." When he's so comfortable with you that he stops thinking about your relationship and simply enjoys it, he'll find himself nudged into love territory. Take these dating tips:
Let him see you primp. Grooming in front of him enhances intimacy because it's something other guys don't get to witness. Just keep it goddess like (applying lipstick or powder), not gross (bleaching your moustache).
Cook together. Being around food spikes oxytocin levels in males. The more often you prep dinner a deux, the more he'll associate you with the good feelings he gets from eating it.
Stock your pad. When buying groceries you don't have a preference on, get a brand he uses. He'll subconsciously feel at home at your place. Catnap near him or let yourself doze off in his arms so he sees you in your most trusting, completely relaxed state.

Um no, I have yet to catch feelings for a woman who has put make up on in front of me, that's when i start noticing flaws, like why you wear so much make up?

Now all these things I think will help keep my attention but I would be hard pressed to say that it would make me fall in love with some one.

There is more to it than that.