You know your a sorry woman when you pay your girlfriend to cook up a dinner for you so you can impress a potential boyfriend.
Learn to cook with your sorry ass.
Why you ask or not ask am I peeved by this?
Because this chick got the meal I was supposed to get so I had to take the "cook" out to dinner so she could save the money to pay the bills.
Cost me $75.
Than get this, I see the new couple a few days later and dude starts bragging about his "home made" dinner his girl cooked him and just cant stop showering praise on her.
Like she is the Iron Chef or some thing.
Im salty as hell still about it, but I dont hate on the little stuff, Im going to let it slide.
Get this though, the dude actually starts talking about she is the ONE.
What?
Off a cooked meal your talking about marrying her?
Well thank God he ate the food and not me cause somebody must have put some menstrual blood in the sauce.
I damn near dropped dime on her ass right there just to to bring him to his senses.
But I let it slide, who am I to to interfere with matters of the heart?
Poor bastard will find out about her sooner or later, hopefully it will be before he gets his stomach pumped.
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****It Ain't That Serious.
When I first saw this exchange my first reaction was GET HER ASS OUT OF THERE!
WTH kind of conduct is that for a reporter at the White House press conference?
It was unprofessional as hell.
But I try to look at things critically after the heat dies down that way you can identify the bodies better.
But after a little time went by, I got to say this reporter still over did it.
True, Gibbs could have saved the sly remark to April Ryan but I understand why he did it.
If your asking me what 1+1 is and I tell you it's 2 the first time and then you ask me whats 2+0, then 2/1, 2x1, it still muth#@$% 2!
And mind you your asking me this damn question while were stuck in a plane getting ready to crash.
Does April Ryan have a right to ask where the hell was White House Social Secretary Desiree Rogers during all this and what her responsibilities are?
Hell yeah.
Does she have the right to hijack a press conference about what to me is a minor issue in a hostile manner?
HELL NO!
There is no conspiracy here, someone screwed up and someone will be held responsible, yes the Secret Service should have been on their toes, but I don't know how well they can do their job if they are not informed who is supposed to be at the party, something that Desiree Rogers and her staff are supposed to be responsible for, she dropped the ball.
But still it looks like that the whole hate for this woman seems to be about her "shinning" too much at what they believe is at the expense of her job.
Smells like some old fashion haterade of the catty variety.
If someone was slack in there job the punishment is not up to us but up to the people most concerned the Secret Service and the First Family.
There the only one who should be raising hell about this.
I mean seriously, 30,000 troops going to Afgan, health care reform, the "jobless" recovery of the economy, Iraq, Iran and your sitting up there playing gossip girl about some highly over qualified event planner?
An event planner?
Damn that, ask why my light bill is so high if you want to ask something!
***I am sorry but this is funny as hell.
I hate to kick the dude while he is down but I got to say this dude had absolutely ZERO game.
Leaving your name on the mistress cell phone?
Giving her your cell phone number that you keep in the house?
More then one woman on the side?
You can tell that this cat is new to the game, a product of a sheltered life.
If your going to cheat get advice from an expert, you can afford it or better yet don't get married.
**** I don't know about you but I had a good sports weekend.
First the G-G-G-G-Giants put foot to ass of the vile Cowboys
The defense finally acted like they had a pair after acting like a JV squad against Denver.
And Eli, who still chucks it up for grabs too much for me had a good game.
On a selfish note big up to Pierre Garcon WR for Indiana who had 6 grabs for 136, (I swore he had a TD with that but it's not listed).
Why would I give this dude props?
That's right, that boy is one of us, actually there is a few of us running around in the league but he is shinning hard this season.
**** And Finally WELCOME BACK MIKE VICK!!
It was nice to see the love shown for him and to see him perform well.
MARTA is short for Metropolitan Atlanta Rapid Transit Authority, the bus and train service.
Now before I go off I will admit that my standards for public transportation is high.
I grew up in New York city, I'm not some suburbanite walking around in awe and scared of his own shadow when surrounded by "strange" looking people.
To be honest I like the adventure that you may be subject to when riding the public system.
I don't mind the old Asian lady who hops on the train and passes out her Jesus Saves pamphlets to every one.
The old black man who when not talking and laughing to himself calls everyone "dad" and bums everything from money to cigarettes at damn near every station, he is cool with me.
I don't mind the unruly alternative school kids that cause havoc when class is out, talking loud cursing and fighting.
The random burst of craziness that you get from the people with mental health issues with no where to go so they ride up and down the train routes, even when they break out into a Soulja Gurl like incident.
The DL homosexuals who ride late night trying to pick up other DL men and thus inevitably hit on straight men.
Side Note: One night after leaving work, I was on the train being watched by this dude who was built like and offensive linemen. I thought it's about to go down, this asshole thinks he is going to walk off with my wallet, than he winks at me an puckers up his lips. Hell I would have preferred that he was a mugger I promptly made my way to the next car.
I can put up with that.
What I cant put up with is a poorly run business like MARTA.
I cant put up with buses late to arrive and late to leave cause the damn bus driver is doing everything but driving the bus.
Like the one who driver who decides she needs to have a conversation with every other bus driver before she pulls off.
I cant stand the fact that YOU KNOW the damn Falcons or the Georgia Tech Football teams have home games and you don't schedule more train running thus flooding the platform with drunk fans who have no idea that your supposed to WAIT AND MAKE ROOM for arriving passengers to get off the train or bus before trying to get on.
The idiots block the doors and look at you like your crazy when you don't move, like your supposed to teleport your way out of there.
Move!
Then there is the lousy scheduling for people who work third shift or out in the sticks.
Let you not make that train station by 1245, your stuck where ever your at.
This city forces you to get a car, and that's for real.
I like riding good public transit but when i moved down here it was so random i had to learn to drive, at 21 years old.
Then they got the nerve to hike fairs, and people have the nerve to complain about traffic.
I swear I hate MARTA.
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****You know your blogging too much when you hand in an essay but refer to it as your "post".

Way too much.
****Somebody needs to lose their job for real.
What the hell was the Secret Service doing?
You let two professional nut jobs just walk into the White House state dinner party and shake the President's hand?
Touch the President?
I can think of ten different ways to do harm to him off the top of my head.
This is not acceptable.
Not this President, and not in these times do you let that go on.
You might not get another chance to mess up and get away with it.
And I am about tired of these reality TV star wannabes disrupting the public consciousness with their antics, some one is going to have to be made a serious example of why you need to sit your ass down and get a regular job.
****
Police Department stats city of New York:
In 2008 there were 461 murders in New York City, as of 11/15/09 there are 403 murders.
In 2008 there were 1170 reported rapes, as of 11/15/09 there are 1049.
Hhhhhmmmmmmm.....yes......yes I can see how New York city is so much safer now that this man,.........
.....Plaxico Burress is in jail after shooting himself with his own gun in November of 2008.
Thus violating New York's hand gun laws and prompting the mayor Michael "Three-peat" Bloomberg.......
......to get on a soap box and demand that he be made an example of.
Yes lord knows that the city is soooooo much safer now that this villainous threat is locked away safely behind bars.
Thus allowing New York to show the world their high value for the rule of law.........unless of course you count Mayor Bloomberg's manipulation of the law to allow him to run for another term as new York city mayor.
But hey!!!!
That's OK, cause like him riding to the rescue of the city in the case of Burress the mayor is just doing his part to save the city from it's self.
****In Related News..........
The Giants are pissing me the hell off, we should be owning the NFC East.
I really, really need the giants to put their foot down next week, all over that Star.
Because when the season is over I am going to be stuck following the Knicks and I swear to God they are doing everything possible to put me in the grave.
****Heard the buzz over Adam Lambert's AMA performance......
Now I don't watch to many music award shows since no who deserves the awards gets it and everything is just rehashing whats on the radio.
It's like showing the punt return highlight in football, you only see it for two reasons some one scored big or someone screwed up big.
Watch adam lambert kissing a guy live at AMA 2009 in Music | View More Free Videos Online at Veoh.com
After watching this to be honest I couldn't tell you if this is "extra" or not.
I would have to see if the AMA and other award shows had anything this risky on before.
If so then this is much ado about nothing and people are pretty much offended because dude is sweeter then a bag of candy on Halloween.
People need to chill.
If not then yeah old boy here went over the top with it and should have saved this.
But I will point out that at these shows you have a whose who of dysfunctional knuckleheads guilty of REAL crimes and no one tells them to get to stepping.
I'm just saying.......
**** And Finally....![]()
Now the rumor is that Tiger Woods got tuned up by his wife for supposedly cheating on her.
Now no one knows for sure yet what went on besides those two but lets say it happened to address a point.
Two things, one there was some good golf related jokes on this and that's fair game to me.
But the second thing is not fair game, if your thinking that it's OK for her to act a fool cause he supposedly cheated than you a FOOL.
That is a two way street your going down and what is good for the goose is good for the gander, you let this slide you let men who beat on women for the same offense slide, it's only logical.
Besides that lets say he decided to turn around and rearrange that oh so pretty face of hers performing amateur plastic surgery on her bad ass for putting hands on him, what the hell y'all going to say?
Cry foul?
Keep your hands to your selves people.

First let me say that there certain brands I just wont support.
I do not do Nike despite how good their product is cause I don't like their business practice.
I don't do Starbucks cause they are HIGHLY overrated with their coffee.
And with the exception of Chevy trucks I do not do American cars, just not reliable, I do not care how cheap the parts are I should not have to be seeing a mechanic in less than a year for major work and I damn sure shouldn't have to buy special equipment to work on it my self.
Why the hell should I have to flip the engine to change spark plugs?
And the bottom of the barrel of American brands are Chrysler, Dodge and that despicable Pontiac.
In case of the first two, I don't know how those brands are still in business, after earlier this year, I thought they were done for.
But in a move that might just save their butts the company put in place some one who actually knows how to design cars, Ralph Gilles.
From Black Entreprenuers:
Ralph V. Gilles was appointed President and Chief Executive Officer, Dodge Car Brand, Chrysler Group LLC, October 2009, with full profit and loss responsibility for the Dodge car product portfolio. He continues to lead Product Design as Senior Vice President, a position he was named to in June 2009.
Previously, he was named Vice President – Design on Sept. 1, 2008.
Since first joining the former Chrysler Corporation in 1992 as a designer, Gilles has put his extensive academic background in industrial design and business administration to use, holding various positions within the company, including:
2009, President and Chief Executive Officer, Dodge Car Brand, and Senior Vice President – Product Design, Chrysler Group LLC
2009, Senior Vice President – Product Design
2008, Vice President – Design, Chrysler LLC
2006, Vice President – Jeep®/Truck, Color and Trim Studios, and Specialty Vehicles, Chrysler Group, DaimlerChrysler
2005, Director – Truck Exterior/Interior Design Studio
2001, Director – Design Office, Large Car Studio, Family Vehicles
1999, Senior Manager – Design Office, Studio 3
1998, Manager – Design Office, Jeep Interiors, Chrysler Corporation
1992, Designer – Design Office
Gilles is extremely active inside and outside the company. He serves as the Executive Sponsor of the Chrysler African American Network (CAAN) in addition to playing a leading role with The Chrysler Global Diversity Council. He also serves on the Boards of The Walter P. Chrysler Museum in Auburn Hills, Mich. and The Pontiac Osteopathic Hospital Regional Medical Center in Pontiac, Mich. At his alma mater, The College for Creative Studies (CCS) in Detroit, Gilles serves on The Advisory Board of The School of Industrial Design and on The CCS Capital Committee.
The man has a long hard road ahead of him trying to make cars that appeal to the public as well as break the perception of American automotive incompetence.
But you got to start some where.
I don't know how much pull he really has but besides making a good car he should look into going electric.

The professor in class asked a question about the patience displayed by the main character of the Shawshank Redemption movie Andrew "Andy" Dufresne who is sentenced to two consecutive life sentences at Shawshank State Penitentiary in Maine for murdering his wife and her lover.
The question being to put ourselves in his place and describe the Patience needed to make it.
Now I would like to point out that for one, Andy’s patience ran out as he eventually escaped after realizing the limits and futility of his own patience, second you do not have to imagine what it would be like to live through this since in real life there are hundreds of former prisoners who have been wrongly convicted only to be released later after the truth inevitably emerges from the darkness.
They are experts in the matter and could give most Buddhist Monks a run for their money on what it means to be patient.
I have watched these men, through the media, as they embrace their freedom with a calm that to me is so shocking that it borders on terrifying.
How does someone maintain their sanity after pleading, screaming, bargaining for anyone to listen that they are innocent?
How do you control of your emotions, and achieve a level of peace KNOWING that you are paying for a crime you did not commit?
All the while caged like an animal surrounded by men who have committed REAL crimes against their fellow man and who have built a culture in those prisons were the weak are preyed upon and the solution seems to be to become a predator.
How do you not let hate eat away at your soul and lash violently out at the world trying to make it feel the pain you suffered with all those years stuck in time as the rest of the world kept turning, not just leaving you behind but forgetting about your existence all together?
How do you not let the stress kill you, or for that matter how do you not kill yourself?
I can only speculate on what it takes, because I have never walked in those shoes and I pray that I never do.
Hate would be my close friend in there, my confidant, and my support.
The only thing I can think of is that these men have consciously or sub-consciously practiced a combination of mediation, denial, hope and faith.
Meditation to clear the mind of all distractions and allowing for focus.
The denial of the despair that creeps into you and allows you to accept your fate, abandoning the future.
Hope that your freedom will be given back to you.
And finally, faith, faith in the world that it will open its eyes and see your innocence.
This is what I believe will allow them to ease the stress of their minds and hold on to their sanity and eventually leave prison still human and maybe better off than what they were before.
That is what I think it would take to come out of their alive. Alive and at peace with not only yourself but those around you and more importantly those who are responsible for your incarceration.
I cannot say that I am that type of person who would have the types of tools to make it out. But seeing men like the ones who did make it out gives me hope at the very least.



