School

These courses are kicking my ass right now so I have not been able to post like I want to. It's been a tough week. Got caught by the cop 3 times for moving violations, my job is trying to short me on my tuition reimbursement, and I am constantly broke.

And to top it off I had a patient die on me last week. That one really irked me because there was nothing that can be done for him. But the feeling of being helpless stays with you. For some reason his passing just angered the hell out of me, I have no idea why, I'll have to figure that out later.

See ya.

Quote of the day: Mar 5th

"....What happens to me happens to lots of men, fall in love and you needing some oxygen, as far as wives I was thinking like Solomon..."
Common "Breaking My heart" Finding Forever.

True Story 4: The Great Saboteur.

When it comes to relationships I am the Great Saboteur.

I know how to screw it up royaly.

Over the weekend a homeboy of mine pointed this out to me by way of women associates.

He noticed that the women that I called good friends were what you would call marriage material.

Educated, intelligent, kind hearted, universally attractive, centered and ordereed in their lives.

These are the that I kick it with, hang out, absolutely no fooling with.

He than pointed out that the women I chased around, were ussually unmotivated, zero ambition, scandalous, chaotic, out right trouble.

To be honest I already knew this but I did not realize that their was a pattern.

Every women I take seriously is a walking disaster.

My friend says I am suffering from a hero complex, (more popularly known as Captain Save a Ho), that I am trying to be a hero to these women so I only seek out the ones in need, knowing damn well you cant help those who will not help themselves.

He maybe right but I hate to think I am that naive, what I think is that I am choosing these women because they are easy to walk away from.

You see with a woman who has her act together you have to put in 100% effort, no half stepping.
I know I am not willing to do that because that means a very serious relationship that I want no part of.

I do not consider my self twisted for it just not ready for it.

Am I?

What I am Rockin: Gnarls Barkely (again)

Like Peanutbutter and Jelly.

Who's Gonna Save My Soul (Starring ?uestlove) [Unofficial]

Back again.

Well spring break is here and I can finally unwind for the week, thus more blogging.

What I am Rockin: Gnarls Barkley

I am calling hotness right here.

Yall better get this one.

Run

Arranged Marriage.

I have a homeboy of mine from Gambia, Africa we were talking about a situation of his that he had decided to go ahead and commit to.

See his parents had picked out a wife for him, when he was 7, from this other family that had just had a new born daughter.

The young lady is now 19 and it is now time to get hitched.

His folks have been calling him from Africa nonstop expecting a date of his arrival back home for the marriage.

My man is sweating bullets and I be lying if I did not say that I was getting a good laugh out of this.

The young lady, who by the looks of her picture is a stone cold fox, is getting her education right now but is eagerly waiting for her husband to be to come home and make an honest woman out of her.

She and my man will call him Slim; have been keeping up with each other on the phone so they are not complete strangers.

But none the less with the exception of the pictures they have never seen each other.

Now Slim just got out of a marriage to an American woman who he neglected to tell his parents about, the relationship was a bad one so was hesitant about to get married again, African or no African.

His mother has different ideas about the matter, since he did not bother to say no to the plans all through his years growing up it is too late to say no now.

So he is going to bite the bullet and get hitched “in the near future”.

I got to admit Slim’s culture has got me thinking, his father, has 5 wives and over 19 kids with them, Slim being one of the younger ones, he says he does not know if he will take on another wife since you have to be pretty well off to afford more than one, (amen), and that’s why he is in America to make his fortune.

Could I go along with an arrange marriage? The practice is not uncommon in Haiti were my folks are from and I know my grandmother would be the one brokering the deal, so I would feel safe, but could I do it?

The rumor is that those couples who are in arranged marriages stay married and happily at that.

Now this is opposite to our pick em and leave em ways that we have over here.

So who ever she was, I would be stuck for life.

The thing is in most cases you are not really strangers you would know about each other and be introduced to each other under supervision, hell you may even be attending the same school.

Besides considering how couples over here know each other for years and still get divorced how much stock can you put into knowing some one?

I mean there are little thing that need to be worked out like virginity, education who is living where and so on and so forth, but the parents doing the arranging would be dealing with that.

Truth is I do not know what I would do but I have a sneaky suspicion that I would go along with it.

What I am positive about is that they would be only one, I see no purpose to bringing the gravedigger and the coffin maker along to your own execution.